Controlling Behaviors:
- Tries to prevent victim from spending time with her/his family or friends
- Tells her how to dress
- Buys her anything as a way to control her
- Threatens to spread rumors if victim doesn’t do what he/she wants
- Tells her where to live, either on or off campus
- Prevents her from participating in sports or other extracurricular activities
- Prevents her from going to study groups
- Tells her what classes to take
Verbal Abuse:
- Threatens to kill himself/herself if victim stops seeing him/her
- Threatens to hurt victim if they break up
- Threatens to hurt her (hit, slap, choke, punch, kick) when angry
Physical Abuse:
- Hurts (hits, slaps, chokes, punches, kicks) victim when angry
- Makes victim fear for her safety
Abuse via Technology:
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- Calls and texts victim’s cell phone to check up on her more than 50 times per day
- Shares or threatens to share private or embarrassing pictures or videos of victim
Sexual Abuse:
- Pressures victim into having sex (going all the way) when she doesn’t want to
Forced Substance Abuse:
- Pressures victim into drinking alcohol or taking drugs when she doesn’t want to
Source: 2011 College Dating Violence and Abuse Poll
Helpful Dating Violence Resources
- National Dating Abuse Hotline: (866) 331-9474
- Association of Title IX Administrators (ATIXA): www.atixa.org
- Break the Cycle: www.breakthecycle.org
- Conference On Crimes Against Women: www.conferencecaw.org
- Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women: http://dahmw.org or (888)746-5754
- Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault and Stalking Data Resource Center: www.jrsa.org/dvsa-drc
- FBI Victim Assistance: www.fbi.gov/stats-services/victim_assistance
- Love Is Respect: www.loveisrespect.org
- Margolis Healy Title IX Gender & Sexual Violence Response Compliance: www.campussafetymagazine.com/margolishealy
- National Crime Victims Center: www.ncvc.org
- National Stalking Resource Center: www.ncvc.org/src
- National Victim Notification Network: www.vinelink.com
- Safe Horizon: www.safehorizon.org
- Security On Campus: www.securityoncampus.org
- Start Strong: www.startstrongteens.org
- That’s Not Cool: www.thatsnotcool.com
- A Thin Line: www.athinline.org
- Violence Prevention Coalition of Greater Los Angeles: www.vpcgla.org
- U.S. Department of Education’s Higher Education Center for Alcohol, Drug Abuse, and Violence Prevention: www.higheredcenter.org/database
- U.S. Department of Justice: Office on Violence Against Women: www.ovw.usdoj.gov
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